IN A RELATIONSHIP!

They say the way to a man's heart is through is stomach. I sure was in a mood to cook something for him on my short trip. I wanted him to miss me when I was gone. So, last Saturday in Brussels my man and I decided to go shopping. For most westerns my man also find it hard to differentiate between Asian stores and Indian stores. When I suggested that we had to get some Indian spices, he took me to a Chinese market. As one could expect there was nothing Indian there. But luckily in another store near by I was able to find most of the stuff I wanted. I stuffed my basket with different types of curry mixes to take home, along with cumin seeds, hot chilly powder (another luxury item if you live in Istanbul) and bay leaves for evening supper. 

After food shopping he wanted to take me clothes shopping, which I had asked for. We had some communication gap and it lead to a lovers tiff. I didn't speak to him for the entire 2 hours and just kept walking behind him. He tried to break the ice several times but I denied even looking at any of the places he was showing me. We walked for almost 3 kms and reached a wonderful cafe "Flamingo" located at 169, Rue de Laeken, where I had the pleasure of meeting two of my man's best friends, Biser and Ekmel. They were very friendly and we all gelled well instantly. I had met Biser in Istanbul earlier and it was great to see him again. Ekmel and I got talking about men in their 30s. Usually commitment phobic, bed hoppers and the ones proficient in giving lamest excuses. Tolga is 36, so he fits in that category as well. As we were parting ways after 2 hours of great conversation and coffee. I invited them both home for dinner that evening.

A feast for four that took me almost 2 hours to prepare had chicken curry, spicy red beans (Rajma), cashew rice (Pulao), salad, bread along with Baklava and Ice cream for dessert. I was pleased with my efforts when I saw how much his friends loved the food. They continued to appreciate me through out. I can see Tolga felt really proud of me. While eating he even took a photo of us, Ekmel instantly suggested uploading it on facebook. To my surprise Tolga was not very happy doing that. Neither did he seem interested, he started to present excuses, the lamest of excuses "my cousins are friends with me on facebook and they might comment in front of my parents". I didn't pay much attention to that. After dinner we all spoke for several hours; finally, the boys left. It was around 12:30 AM, I was dead tired; fell asleep but kept waking up, he was on his phone. I wanted to see if he was posting something on his facebook. My phone was lying next to me, I went to his profile but there was absolutely nothing. At 3:00 AM he retired to bed. I thought he would at least cuddle me, kiss me but he went off to sleep facing the other side. That behaviour was kinda strange for me. We can hardly keep our hands off each other. So, I made a slight move. He still didn't move, I went further and spooned him from behind. There was still no reaction, finally he asked "you are not sleeping". I was happy that he had initiated a conversation. We got talking in bed and all of a sudden he asked me to show him my phone and messages. I wasn't expecting it, but if I hadn't agreed to it it would be that I was trying to hide something. He started to look through my messages and whatsapp messages and Viber and photos. Before Tolga proposed I had been talking to a few men, there were nude photos that I had received or sent. Some of them were compromising indeed. he didn't like it and asked me for a clarification. I was very honest and told him exactly who they were. I also told him that I had troubles trusting him as well as he broke up with me through an sms 8 months back. We decided to put everything behind us. We both knew that it was both our faults and in order to move ahead we had to start afresh. Knowing that he wouldn't do the same in return; I went on facebook at 4:30 AM and changed my relationship status to "in a relationship"!